3 WAYS TO BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM AND CONFIDENCE
How did it get to where it is now, anyway? By repetition! You constantly heard the same things said and done to you over and over again, and that built in your mind the sense of worth you have right now. How you esteem yourself and how confident you are based upon what your brain has believed and what your heart has felt over the years.
So what can you do to change that?
- Change your input!!! Change the people you hang out with. Change the people who speak into your life. If you just have naysayers around you, change your circle!!! Get new friends who appreciate and value you. Choose people who speak kindly to you and well of you. Change your brain’s programming by changing what you’re feeding it. Change your heart’s elevation level by changing what you’re feeling based, yet again, on what you’re listening to. So first, change your circle.
- Secondly, be proactive about feeding your mind with positive information about yourself and your circumstances. Read the Bible. It never changes. So you can trust what it says about you. Like you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are loved. You belong. You are chosen. Then, read great books that help you to rebuild what you really should have been building from the beginning. Read books that help you to see yourself from an ideal perspective. Because that’s how God sees you.
- Third, make yourself an encouragement box. When you have positive experiences, write them down. Put them in a special box. Then when you are feeling low, you can always pick out any one paper from the box and it’ll be a true and authentic encouragement to yourself. And because you said it, you recorded it yourself based on something that you experienced, you will believe it and you will see yourself in a better light. You could even go one step further and write out all the positive things about you. Then read them out loud to yourself as you record them on an audio device. Go on ahead and put some background instrumental music and save it. Then listen to it often as you travel, before you go to sleep, when you wake up, when you’re feeling down – basically, all the time when you’re feeling low or that you need a boost.
What if you just can’t get away from the people who put you down? First, there’s technology. Block everyone you can block. This may not be the time to try for the hundredth time to resolve issues about how they make you feel or how they put you down. Block them. If you live with them, block them in your mind. Let their words pass by you the way the words on TV do or the way the sounds of water flowing do. You don’t dwell on those 24-7, do you? No. So let them speak, let the words go in one ear and out the other. Don’t take them to heart! Look for books on boundaries and read them. You’ll be glad you did!
In the meantime, here’s a Free Self-Esteem Wordsearch book for you to print and use.